I made it official. I am not going back to work after my Mat Leave ends in just 2 weeks.
It was a tough decision in some ways and easy in others. Pros and Cons were listed and when it came down to it this was the best option for me and our family at this time.
I’ll be with our kids full time, able to dedicate time to the 2 kiddos.
I’ll be able to live a less stressful existence, no more losing sleep over shitty customer interactions
I’ll find some time to focus on being more creative, I was thinking I could get into a hobby or two.
It will give me a chance to spend more time with my spouse (and maybe once and a while kid free!)
no paycheque, zero dolla bills, zilch to contribute monetary wise and then worrying about how that effects our home life.
missing work friends & chats, not having enough adult interaction on the daily.
our home & personal finances will be even tighter, that can mean next to nothing in the entertainment budget. cutting back and spending less (spending less can turn into a Pro)
less opportunity to advance in a “career”
LBH the Pros and Cons list is longer and so much more boring, so I cut it down to the finer points. My hubby and I talked about it almost constantly after we hit the 4 month mark of my Mat Leave. I was tired of talking about it and had to make a decision.
To be ABSOLUTELY clear I would not have quit my job if I wasn’t very fortunate to be in a place where we can afford for me to take this time off. We are by no means celeb status ala refusing jobs b/c we make a few million a year doing voice work for Family Guy. But we saved our nickles and dimes carefully and can continue to live our lives with my husbands income and the odd cash job.
It came down to a few things that I’m sure most of us at one time or another have chatted about. So BIG thank you to everyone who helped me talk it to death over the last 12 months.
I was working in a job where I wasn’t creatively satisfied anymore, sure I could edit form emails and have fun with customers, but the day to day was repetitive and the pay wasn’t anything to write home about. At this job I didn’t see myself moving forward to something more, I needed to have more education or work experience (ironically) to move up and I can’t do that working part time evenings and weekends.
The other key part that kept coming back was that I wouldn’t be able to buy this time back, as the kids grow I would be missing milestones and when it comes down to it all these years are going to fly by. For us, this is OUR best option for our family moving forward and now I get the chance to take an honest look at myself (it’s going to be scary) and figure out what I want to do next.
Figuring things out on a budget HA! and just living day to day. it’s going to be tough, but I’m grateful for the chance to be with my kids and a little less stressed at the end of the day. Money can’t buy happiness but maybe I can spend some time trying to figure out what really is going to make me happy, feeling fulfilled and possibly making a bit of money at it.
Will you be staying home with your kids full time? heading back to a career you’re passionate about? or stilling trying to figure out how to do this whole #adulting thing like me? I’d love to hear from you and we can chat or explore this scary new chapter in our lives together!