HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

HAPPY 2018!
NEW YEAR = NEW DIY Projects!

If you’re reading this post you made it to January 1st, 2018 – GOOD STUFF

I enjoy the start of a new year, it gives us the opportunity to reset & plan for 365 days of fabulous. It’s the kick of to a NEW YOU.

One of the things I do like to talk about is the idea of Resolutions. I tend to say Goals but it’s still has the same. I want to have goals I can try and achieve this year, aspirations to be better or do better and I came up with some good plans for 2018. I liken it to when we talk about what we would do if we won the lottery, some ideas are absolutely ridiculous while others can be small and really impactful.

Here is what I came up with:

  • I will not post pics of my daughter anymore on my social media spaces.
    • from time to time my kiddos can be funny or messy and I want to share milestones with the social universe. But when we get down to it Imy daughter is getting to an age where it’s not the best for her or our family. my hubby and agreed that it comes down to being about her safety. I have a hard time keeping my cool around social media – I worry about what people think or who said what and when they said it. SO to keep our daughter safe and to start a better dialogue around the world wide web we’re going to post the occasional arty pic but we’re going to try our darnedest to shelter her a little while longer.
  • I’m going to start going to bed earlier
    • tricky-ricky! it’s a goal I’m setting for myself b/c I’m tired of being tired! I get to a point where I just….can’t…take it AND that’s just a fucking mess I don’t want to deal with or subject my husband to on a regular basis. It’s easier said then done – i’m a night owl at heart – but having 2 kids is really kicking my butt. I know if I get more sleep I’ll feel better, so I just have to reset and crawl into bed at a more reasonable hour.
  • I’m cutting back on overindulging
    • YEAH OK! I feel like everyone says this and inevitably we fail b/c lets face it, the stuff we love isn’t usually to hard to get and there is that other thing called The Holidays¬†where everywhere we turn there are chocolates or cookies or another awesome potluck at the office. (we’re lucky to be able to have access to food!). While I am typing this I am enjoying my 2nd mimosa and I’m finishing yet another brownie. But what I mean is I’m going to get back into a habit of moderation. I get mad at myself when I eat a piece of so-so cake and then help finish my daughters that she leaves behind after she eats the icing. I’m not going to never have treats, that’s not realistic, but I’m going to be sure it’s something I enjoy.
  • 2018 is going to be about the books
    • I love to read and I want to take advantage of our library for myself and not just for the kids. I’m going to keep track of the books that I read in 2018 and hopefully there will be a handful of good reads I can talk about in future posts, I’m sure there will be others I hated, but I won’t know until I try. Fingers crossed there is enough time to get in a few reads just for myself ūüôā
  • I’m going to make time to make art
    • I’m a crafty AF person. I lose sleep thinking about stuff I want to make, things I have seen on Pinterest etc. and what I would like to do is carve out some “Me Time” to make some art.
  • I am going to consume less
    • This one could trip me up a bit considering my previous goal of making art. But I noticed this holiday season that there is just so much stuff in my world. You know what I’m talking about – the clutter, the unfinished project, the saved fabric etc. SO I want to spend 2018 doing all that I can to not buy anything new. I want to take advantage of our local Value Village, it’s awesome! I want to talk more about re-purposing, it’s awesome to shop our stash in the basement to find something and reuse it in a new way. Just today I was looking for something to hold some soap and LOW AND BEHOLD! I found a little pottery dish we had been gifted and it’s¬†perfection there was no need for a trip out to try and find something, I saved $8 and it’s cute-to-boot. WINNING!
  • other stuff
    • ya know, I should drink more water every day
    • going to spend less time on the ‘ol FB when the baby is sleeping (more time for reading!)
    • being a better spouse
    • volunteering!

There are so many great ideas to be a better person in 2018

What are some of your plans?

A

 

 

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haunted by a holiday song

Have you been sucked into the holiday merriment yet?

I’m sure you have! As I type this it’s just a few days shy of the 25th

This year is a tad different around our house then last, for one we have an infant around who is making things even more festive! You want the KIDS to have all the fun, so adults start to enjoy the season that much more.

One thing that is different for me this year is that I have not found an xmas song that has haunted me quite like in 2016.

Let me explain:

Last year we lost a very important member of our family. An important cog in the wheel and it was our first xmas without her. We had a few months to prepare but I’m sure it’s like this for everyone, every 1st is the hardest and it would just sneak up on me. I’m sure coupled with the raging pregnancy hormones I was a cluster-truck of emotions as you can imagine. WELL! I found last year that at every waking moment I was followed around by Elvis’¬†Blue Christmas. Now I don’t like this song on a regular day but it was absolutely everywhere. I turned on the radio at work, when the clock radio woke me, when I got in the car to head to work/shop/school pick up. It was absolutely endless and I’m 100% sure it was not my imagination.

But guess what? this year nothing! there isn’t a song that is sticking out like a sore thumb, nothing I am finding I dislike. I’m taking that as a sign, that we’re on the mend. It’s a small thing – a stupid and sad song that plays at Christmas time – reminds us of someone we miss but also of the things that are ahead. Leaning on our family to create new memories while keeping her memory alive and not letting it be a Blue Christmas.

That is the lesson I am taking away this holiday season.

Cherishing my family and making new memories are the plan!

What about you? Do you have a holiday song that is absolutely reviled around your house? Don’t even get me started on that¬†Christmas Shoes one.

Happy Holidays,

A

All the single parents, All the single parents

WOW! what a week.

1st, let me start off this post by saying I respect single parents doin’ their thang every day. I don’t want anyone to think I felt any other way.

Not until I was a single parent last week did I REALLY get to understand even a tad of what single parents take care of day-in-day-out. My husband spent last week working his butt off for a conference in the works for the last year. It was all hands on deck for 6 days, 14-18 hour days, he came home to sleep a few hours and then was back out the door. So i was in charge of ALL the things for our 2 babes.

What I came to understand was how single parents must feel AND how crazy a life it must be when you throw a job into the mix as well. Since I’m on Mat Leave (thank YOU Canada!) I had one advantage of not having to time manage myself, dress and have some semblance of washed hair. My clients were my daughter and son and they are too young to judge me too harshly.

I will admit it to anyone who will listen/read this blog post: It is a miracle I made it, I got lunches packed and bottles made and every evening but I learned more about myself. I had to be ok with wearing the same sweater for 3 days in a row and pretending I didn’t give AF what the other moms thought, I had to cook ALL the meals and somehow find time to eat, I had to be patient with my baby as he screamed bloody murder during story time (kudos to my 4 yr old for keeping her shit together) and the last part I learned was that I am ridiculously Co-Dependent and that made me more upset than anything else.

Being left alone to my thoughts isn’t great on the best of days, but this past week I had a chance to really take an honest look at myself. Am I happy with how my life would be if I was the single parent? Would I be able to handle this if my life suddenly took a new turn? I am still leaning towards YES.

Big shout outs to the single parents who can get the kids out the door fed, clean and ready to tackle the world. Not only do you have the energy of a thousand suns know that you are doing a great job when the laundry is piling up Рthe laundry can wait (I learned РSCREW Laundry Рjust know which basket has the clean stuff). My words of encouragement came from my daughter, little I love yous or thanks for the scrambled eggs mama made it worth it. Her funny and sweet personality got me through it. This is where the parents get their juju to take on the world I supposed.

Single parents – you got this. Take every little word from your littles as encouragement – you’re doing great and it doesn’t matter if their hair didn’t get brushed this morning or they have extra granola bars in their lunches they love you because you’re there for them.

I bow down to you with the utmost respect and awe.

A

ps- have you discovered something new about yourself since becoming a parent? I’d love to hear what you have!

 

 

little bits of Spring

Hello world!

I have been outta the blog writing game for quite some time! I missed you!

So let’s start a new season with some new blog posts and some fun! full of exclamation points!

Recently I had a baby, YUP! I’m a 2nd time mama. So getting into a groove with baby, a kindergartner and the baby daddy is taking some adjusting. It won’t be easy, but we sort of knew what we were getting into ūüôā

Since being home means all sorts of change, mom guilt and absolute adoration for this new little person, the world is spinning just a tad too fast. I needed some moments to calm the heck out, find something small to enjoy and savor. My husband was the one to help with that today and I thought it fit in with this blog about loving the funny.petite and sweet things in life.

We’re doing a landscape overhaul of our place. But what does that have to do with anything? Well like all new adventures there are always surprises along the way and this house (and garden) has lots of that.

With the start to Spring 2017 and some sunshine (finally) we’re starting to see little blooms appear. These cute little bulbs are so cheerful and rich with colour we couldn’t help but pick them to bring inside to enjoy just a little longer, and a little string of colour is the icing on the cake!

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Grape Hyacinths

I just wanted to take a small moment to enjoy something in nature that is petite – a bit of spring to add some cheer and help us all enjoy the new beginnings around the corner.

What little things do you enjoy? a piece of chocolate? a strong cup-o-coffee? I’d love to hear about it.

Happy Spring!

A

Harper Lee

Good Morning Literature Fans!

I know I promised that this blog would be all fun and awesomeness (so far, with just a few hiccups along that way like that Pity Party disaster of a post) but now that I have had about a month to digest the passing of Ms. Lee I wanted to type out some thoughts about the author who changed my life.

Maybe changed my life is too strong. Maybe shaped my views of the world? that still doesn’t seem right, but I do believe that Lee shaped how I view the world and how one novel can do so much. And clearly I am not alone.

Oh sure! The blog-o-sphere shouts back at me How could one book mean so much to you? it was just ONE book, ONE moment in your young life. There are millions of meaningful works out there. and while I don’t disagree I can say with certainty that there are only handful of books that have truly stuck with me.

One of the reasons I love To Kill A Mockingbird so is¬†because it had the balls to be banned! I LOVED that I loved a book so much and¬†it was somehow scandalous. It was a beautiful thing, I discovered a book that a few narrow-minded twits thought to ban. I felt superior! In a time when I was trying to figure out who I was, and getting ready for a new chapter in my life this book somehow made me feel smarter and that was something I didn’t feel as often as I would like.

The other reason I still love this book is that I am finding more people who love it with just as much intensity. I knew all along I wasn’t¬†the only one, but as I find other stories that shape my way of thinking I am glad there are more people I know who love the book and want to talk about it. The power of a single work of writing¬†really is a fantastic thing ūüôā

A few other novels that have impacted my world:

Surfacing РMargaret Atwood surfacing
Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen
The Bell Jar – Sylvia Plathsylvia

What about you? Have you found a novel/short story/poem that shaped your way of thinking? Perhaps gave you a new perspective or changed your life path?

I would love to hear about your favorites!

 

 

 

 

 

Playdough is crushing my soul

HEY!

That’s right! I said it! Playdough is slowly killing me.

It sounds insane, but now that I’m a parent I have discovered I have a hard time with some #firstworldproblem stuff. Apparently I am not a good playdough participant and my kiddo is not happy, I have been demoted to second string playdough participant!

You know it’s bad when you would rather do anything else, in my case it’s washing dishes and that is SO low on my list of things to do… my husband knows there has been playdough out when there isn’t a dirty dish in sight.

I hate to say, but I would do just about anything else to avoid it. Doesn’t that sound like one of the shitty-est things? To be fair it’s not that I hate ALL playdough, it’s just the mixing of the playdough that my brain cannot seem to accept “I will play with you, but only if you use one color at a time” has become my motto and then I did try salt dough – I figured this would be great! you can make a batch in a variety of colors and then you don’t care if they mix together b/c it’s just flour + water + salt. WRONG!

Not only did my salt dough not turn out like it showed on Pinterest,
(ugh! now I have to add pinterest fail to my list of disappointing parenting moments LOL), but then the dough was too salty I guess? my hands couldn’t take it! My brain was steaming! GET THIS CRAP OFF MY HANDS!

Anywho, the lesson I learned today is that I have to cool my jets, it’s just playdough and this kid friendly stuff is just one more thing I have to learn to be ok with. I just have to let it go.

Have you discovered stuff as a parent that drives you crazy? But not really crazy… just a bit irrational and hilarious? I’d love to hear about it!

 

 

 

Friends for the holidays, Part 2

We survived the holiday season! And I got through the holiday-esque Friends episodes! It was so worth it and I’m so glad I get to share it with you.

Instead of going through all the episodes we can skip to season 9. It’s perfect! A flash back episode! if you want to be lame and not binge watch you can just watch this one. (But we know you’ll watch all of them…over and over) ūüôā

S9 E10 – The One with Christmas in Tulsa

If I had remembered this one was a flashback I would have saved a bunch of time and skipped the others. But this one is great, it has so many memories all of the best lines. It really made me think about my friends and then how you get to an age when you decide that you get to make your own family with the people you want to surround yourself with. The people who make you your best.

Sometimes you want to spend more time with friends, you lose family or your life moves in so many different directions you spend the holidays at different corners of the world. The holidays bring you together as well as give you a chance to look back on other great holiday memories.

This episode also makes you think about what is important to you, do you want to keep working for people that send you to boring places? do you want to find happiness doing something else? This is the starting off point for Chandler’s new career path and I know¬†a lot of people go through the same thing at this time of the year. It’s time to reflect and to (hopefully) laugh our asses off with good friends.

If you’re on the look out for the holiday episodes, look no further:

  • S1E4 ¬† ¬† ¬†The One with the Monkey
  • S2E9 ¬† ¬† ¬†The One with Phoebe’s¬†dad
  • S2E10 ¬† ¬†The One when¬†Rachel quits
  • S6E10 ¬† ¬†The One with the Routine
  • S7E10 ¬† ¬†The One with the Holiday Armadillo
  • S8E11 ¬† ¬† The One with the creepy holiday card
  • S9E10 ¬† ¬†The One with Christmas in Tulsa
  • S10 E6 ¬† The one with Phoebe’s¬†Wedding

 

Friends for the Holidays Part 1

I, like so many diehard fans, wanted to spend a bit of my holidays catching a few episodes. My hubby had a great idea: why don’t we watch some Netflix and chill! No! Wait! I just found out what that means!

What he really meant was: Let’s watch the holiday episodes in the Friends seasons, you love the show so much and I love you so it’s a win/win

*ok, that may not have been exactly what he said, but it’s pretty dang close

Obviously I thought the idea was awesome AND I thought it would be a great idea for a blog post or even a series of them. So here we go…

If you don’t really know me, soon you will discover how much of a Friends junky I really am. I have logged thousands of hours laughing it¬†up with Ross, Joey, Pheebs, Rachel, Mon and Chandler. I have learned valuable life lessons, copied haircuts and style and I would argue that Kauffman and Crane did create one of the best sitcoms of all time. All time. NO! All time.

To celebrate all things holiday-ish we sat down to watch a few of the episodes that fell around the Christmas Season.

S1 The One with the Monkey:

OMG! 1994!!! I love how this show is such a time capsule. In 1994 I was a youngin’, so these episodes didn’t enter my universe until later but MAN you gotta love the clothes. We were curious: were those giant vest cardigans ever actually cool in the 90’s? The scrungees I totally get, velvet dresses I thought were so fancy (apparently making a comeback?!) and cameras WITH Film!

But holy shit those sweater vests.

The episode is really a great starting point for a chat about how relationships can leave a mark on your heart. For those of you who might not know this is where we meet David (aka Scientist Guy aka Hank Azaria).

david

Enter the discussion about long-distance romances! Sometimes you meet the one but the timing is off, and Phoebe shows us what a strong person should act like. Sure, you’re going to be so sad, but if you really love someone you’re going to want them to have all the opportunities in the world, and that means letting them go.

It’s really neat how #spoileralert the writers brought David back on more than one occasion.

 

STAY TUNED!

closing in on my end of the year pity party

It’s happening , the pity police are closing in.

I discovered in my University Years that I fall into a trap of self doubt at the same time each year. If I’m lucky it only happens once in a year. But it’s mid December (winter exam time) & it happened this past March (end of year exams!).

I don’t know what happened to my mojo. For a while I was happy with how things were going. I became a mom and it has been the bliss I have been looking for to fill my life.

People always say “One Day at a Time” BUT what the heck?! what if I can’t figure out one day from the next? what am I going to do when my kiddo starts school and I’m back to square one? I’ll be doing the same thing day in day out, but without her making me laugh. She’ll be saving all of her shenanigans for her peers – those lucky ducks!

And you know who says the One Day business? People like my husband who seem to have things sorted out. or my parents. or my best friend.

This latest cluster-truck of over analyzing started Monday, I just finished leading a discussion about this great book Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.¬†it’s a handy book, Daniel.H.Pink talks about what we know to be true about ourselves but how work environments don’t have their act together when it comes to motivating staff. If you have a chance to pick it up I recommend it. I would stay away from the audio book , D.H.P says the word experiment in a weird way and it was like nails on a chalkboard by the time I got to the end of disc 5.

Instead of being super stoked that I wrapped up on a high note¬† I¬† haven’t been able to stop thinking about what the book says and how I feel about myself. Am I in a good head space? Where do I go from here? Will I EVER find satisfaction?

To be clear, I do find satisfaction in most areas of my life. I don’t want my family to think I’m some asshole who doesn’t love them. I’m not a monster.

But I am so curious to know what my future holds, I have not frickin’ clue. Where should I start?

What about you friendly reader? Have you found your calling? Do you use simple techniques to set goals and then achieve them? I’d love to hear your philosophies on life.

Talk soon,

A